Living Beyond Limits

What do you do when you have failed so badly and you cannot trust yourself?

Or the pain of life is so great you cannot get beyond doubts and learn to trust again?

In those moments it is hard to reach beyond measuring ourselves by an external standard.

Yet to live in a state of low – to truly attract the life of your desires, be gentle.

Edison made many mistakes on the way to inventing the light bulb. Treat corrections as a yachtsman treats adjustments in the wind and ocean. He constantly shifts course and trims his sails to best catch the prevailing wind.

Is your life really a failure? Or will adversity become an opportunity?

Energy follows focus and builds on what you place your attention upon.

So begin each day , or even end each day as you go to sleep, with these four questions:

1. What made me happy today?
2. What gave me a sense of peace and comfort today?
3. What inspired me today?
4. What Can I celebrate that I did right today?

Never accept discomfort or tension.

We have been brainwashed to believe hardship and struggle is part of the process of success.

To appoint this is true.

A body builder knows he must strain against heavy weights if he hopes to build his physique. But if body building is his passion this is no struggle – it is a delight. It may be hard but he is prepared to wpork through the strain.

Likewise if you want a degree, chances are there will be lessons that bore you or you don’t like. Bu having a passion for a goal makes it all worth it.

When the negative challenges release the emotional- body connection to the resistance. Try EFT or Richard Ross’ Emotional Freedom and Healing.

So how can you stay on purpose and live and know your passion?

Evaluate your Vision for the 12 Life Areas.

Both john Demartini and Vishen Lakhaini ask you to evaluate your life vision purpose in 12 life areas:

What is your vision for

1. Life and Fitness
2. Intellectual Life
3. Emotional Life
4. Character
5. Spiritual Values
6. Love Relationships
7. Parenting vision
8. Social life
9. Financial Life
10. Career
11. Quality of life
12. Overall Life Vision

Vishen Lakhaini recommends you ask for each of these areas:

• What do I want?
• Why do I want it?
• What is my strategy?
• What are my beliefs about this topic.

Lakhaini spent four eight hour days on this before he launched into his present business success. He attributes his success to being clear about these goals. He even has 12 separate vision boards.

The Demartini Method is a little more complex, but has the advantage of revealing the underlying feelings behind how our life manifests our values.

Many people become stuck when analyzing their feelings. Demartini asks you to look at your life’s objective reality and then ask what values are driving these results.

It can be reduced to analyzing 12 questions;

1. How do you fill your space?
2. How do you spend your time?
3. How do you spend your energy?
4. How do you spend your money?
5. Where are you most organized?
6. Where are you most disciplined?
7. What do you think about?
8. What do you visualize?
9. What do you talk to yourself about?
10. What do you talk with others about?
11. What do you react to?
12. What are your goals?

Each of these questions is answered by looking at your present life. You write out atleast three or four answers to each that come clearly to mind. The next step is to discover the12 top life values – extracted from a list of 84 – in the mental, physical, spiritual, familial, social and vocational life areas.

Then match these up to the life questions. You will find you are successful in areas you value most, but struggle where values you have lowest on your list drive life areas that consume your time but have little meaning to you.

John Demartini teaches seven basic fears that can run your life and keep you from living your life to the fullest

1. Fear of breaking away from the values system of a perceived spiritual authority. (I on’t want to be considered a bad person or go to hell.)
2. Fear of not having the mental capability. (I’m not smart enough. I don’t have the credentials or degree.)
3. Fear of failure. (I’ll fall short.)
4. Fear of losing it all financially. (I’ll go broke or bankrupt. I won’t make enough money to survive.)
5. Fear of losing loved ones. (My parents might disown me, my lover will leave me, my kids will hate me . . .)
6. Fear of societal rejection. (I’m afraid of what people will think, I won’t fit in, and people won’t want to be with me.)
7. Fear of not having the physical capability. (I’m not tall enough, strong enough, or good looking enough. I don’t have the energy for all of this.)

Click here for  the FREE values inventory  eBook so you can determine your hierarchy of values and align your own competing values or with other peoples values.

Think about it.

When your values are in conflict, don’t you feel disempowered and frustrated? These conflicting life values are often hidden and reside deep in our shadow.

However, we manifest friends, and family who demonstrate these values in their life.

How often do we expect other people to do what we want when their values are diametrically opposed to our own? When we learn to recognize and love these sides of ourselves we feel empowered and empower others.

Expecting others to go against their hierarchy of values is madness.

When we love others for who they are, they become the people we want them to be.

The same is true of ourselves. When we know and accept ourselves, we give ourselves permission to grow.

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