Show a person a picture of member of the opposite sex – a beautiful naked one atleast, and their eyes dilate.
It doesn’t matter if their 92 and a puritan, the response is automatic.
Now let take 2 copies a photo – say of a pretty girl, and artificially enhance the pupils of one picture.
Men will prefer the image with the enhanced pupils. Pupils that demonstrate an spontaneous sexual response.
That is why lovers spend hours staring into each other’s eyes, looking for evidence of attraction.
However, Desmond Morris in his ground breaking book Manwatching: A Field Guide to Human Behavior found that self proclaimed Casanovas responded differently.
These woman chasers who conquer one girl and move onto another, never forming a lasting, loving attachment to one girl preferred girls with constricted pupils.
“They preferred non-loving girls to loving girls,” wrote Morris ”They were wary of girls who might become to clinging and therefore complicate their Don Juan life-style.”
Does this mean womanizers can’t help it? How can a woman avoid the snares the Casanova who wine and dines her, makes her feel irresistible, beds her band then moves on?
They have developed a complex array of seduction strategies, that are planned to maneuver a woman to satisfy his desires.
Unlike, the skilled of women in the days of Casanova, today there is an array of techniques, drawn from psychology that add to a seducers repertoire.
It is true, that woman have used subtle attractants, perfumes and dress to allure men for centuries. There are biological drives developed by Evolutionary psychologists that underlay our responses that players use in their game of seduction.
Many of these techniques are used by men simply to gain attention of a woman and hopefully settle down with someone special.
However, a true Casanova, lives love through a façade. As soon as he is attracted, the deed done, his approach avoidance mechanism propels him away from a woman.
This leaves a series of traits that women can pick up to avoid being hurt.
Detecting Don Jaun
Casanovas charm you with their intense interest, attention and curiosity – the very things that make a woman feel valuable and special. However, this io part of the game to bed a woman and move on to the next.
The pay off for a Casanova is the pleasure and power of the chase – the conquest and the challenge.
Being so skilled at this game they are often very much aware of women’s feelings and are able to manipulate them just as a skilled conman can manipulate a sale.
He may be able to sense and relate to a woman’s challenges, a good listener, he encourages her to vent her frustrations. Feeling comfortable with him, he is then able to move closer to his goal of seduction.
Casanova Psychology: Signs and Symptoms
“Casanovas tend to exhibit some traits associated with psychopathy,” wrote Robert Hare, in Psychology Today of November December 2007.
Possibly struggling with low self-esteem, sexual conquests offer a temporary high of feeling some self worth. However, with a poor relationship with a father figure, they feel insecure about themselves and seek relationships with women unavailable to them.
On the one hand they appear to seek an intimacy that they fear and search for a sense of self-worth.
Like Peer Gynt, who seduced a bride to be, they may flirt with woman unavailable to them. They desire attention of unnavailable women, flirting with a friends wives and manipulate or deceive woman to get what they want.
Some may feel guilty about it, while others do not. They are addicted to sleeping around and like any addict, feel unsatisfied long term.
Like any addiction, this sexually-related, compulsive behavior which interferes with their ability to form loving relationships.
Canning the Casanova in his tracks
A Casanova is a game player. If he is not moving toward his seductive goal, then he will quickly stop his wining and dining and move onto someone else.
In other words, if you are after unattached sex, he is your man.
However, if you want long term love, he will be gone next morning. There is no need to worry about hurting his feelings – he really doesn’t care about your s long term anyway.
It may sound hard, however you need to stand firm and be clear that for you a one night stand is not enough.
Tell him you want to know him first and see if he he will hang around for a second date. Probably he will move on to another conquest.
So how have you handled the attentions of Cassanova’s? Do you have an expereince dumping a Don Juan?
I would love to hear of your experience. What advice can you fgive to help other womwn who are lookingbeyond the manipulators wanting to find true love?
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