While a picture may be worth a thousand words it won’t get you a relationship.
Sure – it may get you a date. But trick a guy into thinking you’re a look alike of Rihanna but don’t expect a second date if you look like Ma Kettle.
Sure we all know that we are biologically programmed by physical attraction – especially at first.
The philosopher Emerson said once we find the limits to a person we lose interest.
I think if that limit is found to be false we crucify them!
Researchers at UC Berkeley decided to test what online daters valued in a potential date.
Once users actually met face-to-face, physical appearance was the least important predictor of how long the relationship lasted they found.
The research released at the 2010 Society for Personality and Social Psychology Annual Conference in Las Vegas analyzed the photo, free response description and multiple choice descriptions of both men and women.
Participants of the study viewed the online profiles whole and in their component parts and rated them on attractiveness. For both genders a photo was necessary for a profile to be viewed as attractive reports eHarmony.
What was surprising was that women was that a photo of attractive men was the only thing needed for a profile to be described attractive.
The men were pickier. They needed to feel that at least one other section of the profile was also ‘attractive.’
Now before you start editing your pictures in photoshop getting and keeping the date is a little more complicated.
The photo may be the initial attraction, it seems that in the search for the important qualities of warmth, kindness, and trustworthiness daters carefully check out the description and content of the profile.
What really counted, they found, was a feeling of an overall attraction that they had really been able to “get to know” their date.
Combing through the data eHarmony concluded “When online dating, post your best photo, but remember to spend some time (and spell check) on that profile! Lastly, how you behave on the date will be far more important than anything that came before it.”
Should we be surprised?
Relatioship expert Rori Raye, author of Have the Relationship you Want, explains that trying to be the martest woman on the planet, the sexiest woman on the planet, the funniest and cleverest woman on the planet, and the most patient and understanding will only drive a man away.
“The absolute truth is that YOU are at the
CENTER of hundreds of men who want you” she said.
She claims that by accessing our true inner beauty we will find their are people out there waiting to find a person just like you.
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