Women have more than hinted that a hubby doing housework is a great turn on. A study from the University of Kentucky Research Center of 300 American husbands agrees.
A man doesn’t have to do exactly 50 percent of the housework to please his wife claims study author Neil Chethik, author of VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think of Their Wives.“If he just does enough so that she feels supported, she’ll be happier.”
According to gender research men think that doing one large, hard task accounts for more worth when ladies are more interested in lots of little things.
Chethik believes this is an unconscious reaction and not trading sex for housework.
However, when wives who felt their husbands did their fair share were less likely to have affairs, couples were less likely to consider separation or divorce, and say they were happily married.
Perhaps men know this too.
A study published in the September Journal of Family Issues of more than 17,000 people in 28 Western countries revealed that live-in boyfriends did more housework than married men.
Are men guilty of buying their way into the bedroom knowing they can slack off once a ring is on the finger?
The researchers suggest that unconsciously people slip into the traditional family roles because cultural change takes several generations.
Author Michael Gurian, founder of the Gurian Institute and advocate of applied neuro-biology and brain research in society, agrees adding that culturally women generally carry the housework burden and feel supported and appreciated by a husband who does his fair share.
When a man does not do his share a woman “feels a distance” according to Gurian. She “feels like she has to become a mom and dominate (her husband) to get him to help her out. Why would she want to have sex with someone who makes her feel like that?”
So when their husbands take it upon themselves to do their fair share, wives feel appreciated and appreciative. It’s no surprise, then, that she is more likely to be appreciative in return.
The exact amount may be negotiated based on the hours each partner spends on paid work, yard work, and other contributions to the family home-making states Chethik.
Research suggests that the success or failure of sexuality influenced women’s long term self-esteem. The risk of pregnancy also forces women to be more selective in mate selection.
How much more sex?
“On average, about once a month more. That may not seem like a lot. But for those couples who are in the throes of child-rearing – when sex happens only occasionally anyway – the once-a-month bump can mean twice as much sex as is typical for them” states Chethik.
Chetnik suggests if you absolutely hate housework then hiring a housekeeper is money well spent. Kmmm I think I read that in How to win Friends and Influence People …. Perhaps science is catching on.
“It’s not loves going hurts my days,
But that it went in little ways.”
- Edna St. Vincent Mallay
Perhaps just being generous kind and caring for the sake of it has benefits after all. If we give for the sake of it, the ambient glow of marital joy will flow into our entire life.
But then everyone knows that women like a surprise. You know –the lovely bunch of roses, the thoughtful card – so why not surprise her with a round with the dish cloth.
Advertising is almost built around sex. Should they sell sex for housework?
I don’t know whether advertisers will start depicting Adonis built men in an apron, but I wonder whether we will ever get to the stage when she calls out to him
“Don’t do the dishes tonight, sweetie. I’ve got a headache.” OK. I admit that suggestion is not original.
…. But I wonder.
