I want your opinion. Is this just manipulation?
You have no doubt seen – or at least heard of men winning gils attention with magic tricks, cars games and the apparent ability to read minds.
With showmanship it can look impressive. Yet it’s It all an illusion can based on probabilities of human behavior.
Here’s a classic ‘Cold Read” by Bertram Forer designed to be used on anyone – not just cute girls or handsome muscle heads.
It’s taken from the Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 1 . Imagine saying this – or having it said to you:
You have a need for other people to like and admire you, and yet you tend to be critical of yourself. While you have some personality weaknesses you are generally able to compensate for them. You have considerable unused capacity that you have not turned to your advantage. Disciplined and self-controlled on the outside, you tend to be worrisome and insecure on the inside. At times you have serious doubts as to whether you have made the right decision or done the right thing. You prefer a certain amount of change and variety and become dissatisfied when hemmed in by restrictions and limitations. You also pride yourself as an independent thinker, and do not accept others’ statements without satisfactory proof. But you have found it unwise to be too frank in revealing yourself to others. At times you are extroverted, affable, and sociable, while at other times you are introverted, wary, and reserved. Some of your aspirations tend to be rather unrealistic.
Pretty obviously, it applies to everyone, but if your astute you can watch a person’s eyes as you recite it and hang onto those words that seem to resonate with your audience.
The same book, Love Systems Routines Manual Volume 1 allows you to refine your skills with someone with observation.
Imagine you are talking to a girl – interrupting her you disrupt her thought with “That’s really interesting.”
After she responds.you say something like
“Did you know that if your eyes slant downwards your first impression tends to be empathetic and approachable whereas if your eyes slant upwards people tend to think you’re fierce and unapproachable?”
She will likely either look up or down (OK sideways to the ears is a possibility)
If her eyes slant down say
“Do you find that people are generally friendly towards you but you really only let a select group of people become really close to you?”
Or if her eyes slant up say “Do you find that people don’t always open up to you straight away and you only let a select group of people become really close to you anyway?”
Whatever she responds you can then say;
“Yeah, you seem like the sort of person that enjoys having friends but only lets a few people into the inner circle. I’m the same way.”
In effect you are unconsciously telling her how to respond when it appears you are really understanding her deeper core.
The subliminal message that she “enjoys having friends” but “only lets a few people” implies she is special to you by implying a commonalty.
So is this really anuthing more than just learning pickup lines or clever psychology?
Pickup lines don’t work because they are corny – they are rarely used to register a girls response and from there to build a conversation.
It reminds me of a skilled hypnotist – he may have a script – or probably series of scripts – but with increased sensory acuity he is able to adjust as he watches his subject.
Similarly, in using a line that provokes a response, a conversation can develop as her body language and what she says reveals more about herself.
A skilled man never gets bogged down into boring details or so narrowed that he risks being falsified.
It is if a common bond develops that he can reveal his real self.
if he chooses.
But then is that why men really learn pickup lines? Or is it that for mant its simply a limp or corny way to hope you can start a conversation without much thought.
Routines can be found anywhere, so if you are just looking forsomething to throw out at a women, why not go online. If you are wanting to learn to develop conversation skills with women , try reading Magic Bullets, or Rules of the Game. Although they assume you know the essential basics of attracting they can help you go beyondconry pickup lines and that encourages a woman to be interested in you.
What do you think?
