Can Porn make you a better lover? Really…? Yes says author Leil Lowndes. But not the anatomically ridiculous male sex romp. Try female romantic soft-X porn instead – or a good romance novel.
I don’t recommend porn – and admit to being more than a little sceptical. So skeptical that I am asking – begging – for your opinion.
Its just that the good doctor has touched on the nerve of the female psyche that men don’t quiet get.
Lowndes Logic
Men know that women like romance – in their heads, it just hasn’t quiet sunk in at the level of practice.
The fact that each month, 150 new romance novels roll off the presses should make men ask what women are yearning for. Why are they filled with hunks like the strong silent stranger, the tycoon who flips his priorities when he meets the love of his life, and even Mr. Mom.
By the way, the majority of romance readers are college-educated and earn an average of
$40,000 per year – not some hard up nit wit stuck with kids wanting to dump her husband.
We all know it and we hear the same story from study after study: When read the same erotic story in a study at Louisiana State University, men remembered .the woman “clawed at her partner’s back and wrapped her legs around him,” whereas women remembered as the hot parts of the story scenes in which “they looked deeply into one another’s eyes.”
Don’t fight it guys, learn from it.
“Unlike male porn, women’s films show you how a woman likes to be kissed and how she likes to be caressed, talked to, and made love to” wrote Lowndes in How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You.
“You’ll pick up other practical hints, like suave ways to slip on your condom.“
Leil recommends films by directors like Candida Royalle, Gloria Leonard, and Deborah Shames as romantic Fem-Porn is a no holes barred view “the way a woman likes it, in her movies.”
… and “A picture is worth a thousand words. A moving picture is worth a thousand still pictures.” A movie will be remembered far better than any book.
Even the bad ones at least can teach a guy what women relate too.
“Women’s sex movies, in contrast to men’s, are more complicated. In place of raw sex, there is steamy sensuality. The films show an emotional connection between the partners, and affection. Closeups on faces reflect the partners’ feelings.”
….Guys, please remember girls get turned on when we see the delight in their man’s face!
For many women fully aroused only when they feel deep affection or respect for their partner.This is why the build up and atmosphere of female erotica is an important lesson for men to learn,
“Candida Royalle’s films, you’ll master techniques on how to touch and caress a woman. In Gloria Leonard’s, you’ll find that humor and sex mingle. In Deborah Shames’s films, you’ll learn more about creating just the right atmosphere to make [her] fall in love with you.”
“From all of these women’s films you’ll learn that humor, romance, a buildup of tension, and strong, slow hands are what work with women.”
Besides some great ideas that will unleash a woman’s desire between the sheets—or on the dining room table, or in the elevator, or on the beach how the women desire to develop a relationship. Ypi may lack the budget of a fictional millionaire lover – but you can learn what she feels and show her she is loved.
“Loving you makes her hotter. Your loving her makes her hotter still” wrote Lowndes.
Of course, a lot of guys would never want their mates seeing them watching Christine’s Secret or A Taste of Ambrosia so sneak a peak at a Harlequin romance for ideas instead.
Now guys, before you start feeling sick at reading how handsome, masculine, sexy hero named Sam is mouthing the sentiments and feelings. He saying what women traditionally feel. What they want you to say. Sam wants to talk, he wants it more romantic, and he thinks he’s falling in love.
Sam, the tender man who needs her, who loves her. Sam, the strong, the gentle, the passionate. But Sam’s passion was not for sex, it was for her.
Twenty-five million readers regularly buy romance novels. Don’t fight it – learn from it.
Do you want ideas about a romantic evening?
Of course, in that passionate out door sex scene, Sam’s feelings, Sam’s expressions, and Sam’s cries came crashing into Emma’s consciousness through the pounding rain. Then after the “one glorious eternity” there was the “warmth that was more than just physical” and the promise of the future: “I want to hold you forever.”
”Memorize a few of the phrases and study the choreography of the moves. Hearing “I need you, I want you, I love you” above the roar of the wind and the waves strikes a primitive pre-lib chord in practically every female heart.”
You may chuckle, guffaw, gag, roll your eyes, or double up on the floor choking with laughter, but twenty-five million females can’t be faking it, she said.
“Corny? Perhaps. But certainly no more unrealistic or wishful thinking than the hot animalistic females who cavort through male porn films begging men to be allowed to do them.”
The fact is, romance is very steamy stuff to a woman.
But What if? ….
Ok … I understand Lowndes logic … still, I wonder if just perhaps, what a girl would think if she found her lover watching some steamy Fem- Porn?
Would she really be grateful he was trying to find romantic ideas? Or would i she be suspicious he was secretly fantasizing over the curves of the female lead?
Since women yearn for intimate connection with their lover could fem porn ignite unconscious fears and cause doubt?
What do you think? Ladies: would you be happy if he was watching Fem-porn? Gentleman: Do you think fem porn would make you feel closer to your lover?
images:Romance by ~rhinosserossy
romance by ~ssecret
(material adapted from How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You by Leil Lowndes, CONTEMPORARY BOOKS, 1996)
