It seems some men think that when it comes to sex some men feel they have two choices:

Either learn ejaculation control, or they hear that if spend hours delighting their lover they will be raised to an intimacy that will explode magically into the perfect orgasm.

To a cynic it may sound like you treat your body like a machine of let her have all the fun. When you learn to experience the sacredness in your loving union then you enjoy the journey rather than just chase a volcanic  ending.

I love the romantic passionate life where everything is poetry. However, to maintain extended orgasm you do need enough aerobic stamina to not run out of puff. Just as it is true of sex: Use it or lose it!

Sexual exercises have the advantage of being easy and fun – especially done together.

However, principles behind Tantra can be used even by those who resist religious sexuality.

The sexual practices used in Taoist, Tantric, Arabian and Japanese traditions both prolong sexual pleasure and raise it ecstasy. As the Bauer’s demonstrated these techniques do not require phallic worship. They do teach us to see the sacred in the world we share and in our bodies as temples of the divine.

Think of our heart. It is both a symbol of our recieving and giving love. It also recieves blood, but must constrict before it can again lovingly infuse life through our bodies.

In the same when we restrain our immediate pleasure we can empower the union of our bodies with love and life.

Anatomically, orgasm and ejaculation are two independent bodily functions and men can maintain arousal indefinitely. As the brain floods with cocaine-like pleasure endorphins, the brains defense system shuts down you relax.

Perhaps the greatest joy is in being aroused by the uninhibited delight of your partner. Training yourself to last longer increases orgasmic intensity and makes possible multiple orgasms.

Control and breath control  is shared by sexual mastery, meditation and yoga techniques. Of course meditation often helps clear our minds and empower many of today’s self help guru’s. In fact, some believe send a wave of positive intention into the quantum field while in ecstasy.

Whether you believe in orgasmic manifesting or think it’s just an excuse for a great time, stretching and breathing techniques can help you get in touch with your body, experience greater pleasure and sense your partners body as well.

A meditative state allows for greater inner tranquility allowing the body to flow. Sexuality becomes a thrilling journey and not just a volcanic destination. Learning to truly feel helps you enjoy increased variety, intensity, and spread of sexual energy.

It’s so easy for men to be focused on their genitals.

Of course there is the development of muscular memory and neurological re-patterning. Meditation studies have demonstrated neuro-plasticity and there is a growing body of evidence demonstrating nerve cell re-growth in higher brain functions.

Then there is the principle of neuro-association. A meditator who touches his thumb and fingers together may do it so often that he goes into an alpha state the moment he repeats this action. Similarly, a person who learns to use relaxed breathing during orgasm may be able to arouse sexual feelings simply through breath.

Just as you can be conscious and still can experience a meditative state, expanded sexual awareness allows conscious ecstasy.

See my short video explaining a bit about breathing and ejaculation control:

Rather than being difficult the technique uses what Somraj Pokras calls RAMPER

• Relax
• Awareness
• Measure
• Pace yourself
• Energy circulation
• Ride the wave

“Relaxing in high states of arousal is the foundation. Tantric lovemaking is typically much slower than the fast pumping you see in porno flicks” says Pokras.

By going slower you’ll be more relaxed, and relaxation lets you open your awareness, heighten your senses, and focus your mind on pleasure in the moment, he said.

There are varying figures. Some reports suggest most men ejaculate in 5 minutes. Without entering a moral argument, Some surveys suggest that men who use pornography may reinforce a similar short period of sexual excitement.

Rather than training the body to climax quickly, tantric techniques teach the body to be able to relax into long lasting pleasure and sensitivity to your partners needs. Rather than rushing and feeling dissatisfied withholding ejaculation can have the effect of engorging you for one beautiful explosive experience when you choose it.

The technique is to pleasure until you reach an intensity of about 7 out of 10, or higher if you can. Rather than climax, relax with deep breathing and after a few minutes start again. Can you survive this process for five more times, or last 30 minutes? Soon you will experience orgasm without ejaculation. If you lose it and release, well just relax and enjoy it!
This is much harder if your partner is giving you pleasure – almost torture. So it’s probably best to wait a few weeks before working together as a couple. Chances are you will slip back to coming to soon with all the extra sensations of your lover. It’s the same process of trying to maintain a level of 7 or higher.

If you have slipped back into old habits, just breathe deeply and learn to relax into sustained pleasure. As you have now learned the technique it should again be easier to  align body and mind.
“Imagine the sexual energy spreading throughout your whole torso and up your spine, chest and throat. Your lover can use their hands to spread the sexual energy up your chest, over and over, as they remind you to breathe and relax into the pleasure” suggests Tantra.com founder Suzie Heumann.

Fortunately, the Western world is again coming to appreciate the connectedness of mind, body and soul.

Anyone who has read Lady Chatterley’s Lover read of the stiff desexualized Edwardian England detached from sensuality where woman even hope for babies without sex which contrasts with the natural beauty of the lovers. Thankfully, we have woken up.

Emotional intimacy is part of our make-up, and more than a sexual technique.  Sexuality and spirituality are intertwined.

Lets learn to open up to our bodies so that we can both receive and also learn how to give truly passionate, intimate pleasure. The body is a temple – even the bible says that – so lets treasure it and learn to share it for the mutual love and satisfaction of our lover and ourselves.

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